By Julia Lima, TIWP Student
“A cultural fixation on female thinness is not an obsession about female beauty, but an obsession about female obedience.”— Naomi Wolf
what is body confidence, really? is it “i am in love with how i look, always and forever”? or is it “ i am in love with some parts of me, but i hate others”? or is it “i like a few things about myself but i tend to forget them”? does liking parts of myself but despising others strip away my Confidence Privilege? maybe confidence isn’t black and white at all. maybe it is entirely subjective and i’m overanalyzing. but what i don’t understand is—if confidence is so desirable and so advertised and so magical—why is it so unattainable for most of us women? it feels like every product directed at us is supposed to help us be confident, yet they only make us notice our imperfections even more. it’s a vicious, cycling, brilliant advertising tactic. i would imagine those companies believe that confidence begins on the outside and not the inside. maybe they’re right and we are actually psychologically inferior to the people we think we really are, the people they make us out to be. maybe confidence is a myth. that would explain its cruel unattainability.